Coming out is a big moment in life.
It can feel exciting, scary, or both at the same time. When I look back, there are many things I wish I knew earlier.
First, I wish I knew that my feelings were valid. I spent a long time thinking something was wrong with me. But nothing was wrong. I was simply being myself.
Second, I wish I knew that I did not have to rush. There is no “perfect time” to come out. It is okay to take things slowly. It is okay to wait until I feel safe.
I also wish I knew that not everyone will understand right away. Some people need time. Some people may never fully understand. But the right people will accept me for who I am.
Another thing I wish I knew is that I was not alone. There are many people who feel the same. There are communities and friends who support us. I just did not know how to find them at first.
Most importantly, I wish I knew that coming out is about freedom. It is about living honestly. It is about choosing myself. It is not about pleasing others.
If I could speak to my younger self, I would say:
“You are enough.
You are not broken.
And one day, you will be proud of who you are.”
Coming out is different for everyone. There is no right or wrong way.
But I hope these words help someone feel less scared and more understood.